URGENT: Write Your Own Obituary

Take a moment and write your own obituary.  What will you be remembered for?  What contributions to this earth and it's community have you made?  Take a moment to look at the big picture.  This is an important exercise when going through a separation or divorce.  It is easy to get bogged down in the moment, find ourselves fighting for something that in 25 years will not impact anything that we will value, yet the "fight" could negatively impact the relationships in our lives...forever.  Whether we have three hours of parenting time or four hours...who gets the granite table....if we keep the big picture in mind...what choices will we make.

Living in the Rubble...

"Let People see you. It is called having friends, choosing each other, getting found, being fished out of rubble. It blows you away, how this wonderful event happened--me in your life, you in mine."  Anne Lamott, Small Victories

Spending time in the "rubble".  That can often sum up what your life feels like when you begin a divorce or separation process.  It is often dark and scary.  You second guess every choice you have ever made. It is possible to loose your sense of "Welcome" or "Worth".  Yet, something amazing can come from this "rubble".  When you let people see who you really are and even just one of them choose you and you choose, them it is an amazing gift that tends to last a lifetime.  Sure, dozens of people may make you miserable-- but don't give up.  Your friend is out there, even if you are spending time in the rubble right now.